Balance….What Is That?

There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. That little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative. – W. Clement Stone

I just spent two days at a great conference.  I listened, I took notes and I processed, now to put it all into action.  Oh wait I won’t be trying to put it all into action because after all where would the balance be.

I left for the conference with a heavy and confused heart, so many people around me hurting and everyone looking out for themselves and not the whole picture.  I’d like to say not looking out for the whole family, but over the last few days I’ve come to the conclusion it’s not one family.  Sad, but true.  I still don’t know what to do with that conclusion, but I know that the first step is coming up with the plan is acceptance.

I am accepting that as adults some of us have “gotten over” more than others.  I am accepting that when people don’t want to hear “the rest of the story” they can turn people off and bury their heads.  I am accepting that my heart hurts and that as long as I let other people’s actions influence my thinking I am going to continue to hurt.  I am accepting that people don’t always know how to be the person you need or want them to be.  I am accepting that some people want to feel sorry for themselves and you can’t change that.  I am accepting that I am a survivor and I can’t let things I can’t control cause me any more hurt.

I have decided to love people in spite of their faults.  I have decided to forgive even if I don’t think “they deserve it”.  I have decided to give myself a “time out” and not try to fix things.  I have decided not to let myself be hurt by other people’s behavior and to just continue to do what is right.

I am going to journal my feelings, spend time in my craft room, read great books, listen to great music, drink good wine and spend time and energy on people who appreciate the good in life and I will not feel guilty for not allowing myself to be sucked in.

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It’s hard to believe the shower is over.  I am not sure we realized how quick it would be here and gone.  I think we had just as much fun putting it all together as we had at the shower….my assitants might not agree.

The invites were put together with a little help from Etsy, I know the invite came from Dana and I also think the insert came from her shop.  She was great to work with.


 One of the funniest comments came from Cousin 1 Belinda, “Why did we have to do invites that had to be folded, taped and layered with this and that and tied with ribbon?”  That’s just how we roll.


We had a big barrier in the fact that we weren’t allowed to hang anything on the walls at the room we rented.  We didn’t let that stop us from making banners.  Oh the banners.




Oh and we can’t forget the many paper pom poms that Jules worked so hard on.


We could not believe how easy the pom poms were, if you haven’t tried them check out this You Tube Video (


This was in the entrance, a chalk board that started out as a big ole’ ugly picture from the thrift store.  Amazing what a little spray paint can do, oh yeah and a couple more banners.  The tally ended up being 19 for a boy and 18 for a girl, we’ll see.

I won’t even try to suggest that we could have done this shower without Pinterest, you can find my boards right here.

I will be linking to some blog parties this week, trying to find my next fun project.

DIY Show Off

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Dr. Seuss Baby Shower

I am making a commitment to blog, I am motivated by a baby shower I am working on. As my cousin Belinda said today, “This train has left the station without a caboose.”

We have completed the invitations, I will give details and links to the Etsy shop later.


Tomorrow night we keep the train on the tracks and complete our glasses.


I don’t know if this would have all come together so easily without Pinterest. You can follow my boards at Michelle Christian Chasteen.


I said the other day this shower will be like Christmas, over in a blink of an eye.

I am now trying to figure out a cute idea for our pens, suggestions welcome.

Linked Up

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New Year, New Hair, New Word and New Project

Yes, I have been a horrible blogger.  I am going to change that.

New Year….New Stuff.

First on the agenda.  New hair, priorities you know.

ImageThe First Born helped me pick a word yesterday, RELAX is the word.  I love watching Ali Edward’s blog and seeing how everyone stays focused on their words and uses that “one little word” to change their lives.  Let’s see if I learn how to RELAX!


I love this project!  I had a big ole blank wall and couldn’t find the “perfect” solution.  I asked Mr. Wonderful to find me some old barn wood.  He found the barn wood and make the backdrop, BUT then I had nothing to finish it off.  Along came Christmas and I received a gift from this great Etsy shop.  The rest is history.  Thanks Mr. Wonderful another great project complete.

ImageImageI am already looking for my next project!  Oh what will it be?

I am going to “Link Up” to a little party over at One Letter Cottage.

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Have You Missed Me?

I can remember when each day I was pondering what to write about, which adult child to piss off by writing about their lives, what teenage temper tantrum would make my mothering skills sound almost “normal” or what project I was going to get Mr. Wonderful involved in…..well HIVES AND MENOPAUSE have taken over my life so now days I google hives, Urticaria, allergist, itching, stress……not quite as much fun.

I am getting involved LifeCenter here in Cincinnati, during my hiatus from blogging my sister, Marsha passed away.  As a family we found a lot of peace in Marsha’s decision to be an organ donor.

Green Ribbon - Sister Hoodie

I have decided that instead of talking about hives, hormones, death, grief and organ donation I’d start new blogs for those topics….I’ll share more information about that soon.  I do want to ask if you are a reader and you aren’t an organ donor please register, I have set a goal of getting 100 donors in my sister’s memory….I have three so far.  Just leave me a comment here or an email at

Just wanted everyone to know I’m alive with a bunch of “stuff” going on, but have promised myself at least one blog post a week….blogging always made me feel good and right now I need something in that department.

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Prettying It Up

I love when I find something and I can see “the potential” and Mr. Wonderful thinks I’m crazy.  Does that ever happen to you?

When I saw this beauty I knew I had to have it.  I bid and I bid and finally she was all mine for the low low price of $25.  Mr. Wonderful says he spent another $25 driving to pick her up.  I couldn’t wait to show him how well spent his time and money were.

Isn’t she pretty?  See the black on the sides?  That is someone’s hand prints.  I love vintage finds like this I just wish they could talk and tell “their story”.  I spent some time “prettying her up” today and then it was time to figure out what her purpose would be.  Maybe you can help me decide.

I think both of these ideas would be great for my Memorial Day cookout.

I love it on top of my new green cabinet holding a few of my favorite cookbooks.  (the light just wouldn’t let me get a great picture.

Who doesn’t love fresh flowers and arranging these were so much fun.  If you look to the left of this picture you see another project we finished today and one I’ll be starting tomorrow.  I am a multi-tasking girl these days.

We are concentrating a lot of energy on our backyard right now getting ready for summer, but I let myself get sidetracked today with a few projects.  I am so glad I did.  I love this new treasure and I think Mr. Wonderful would agree money well spent.  After all “Happy Wife, Happy Life”.

So tell me what should “her” purpose be?

All this fun made me start googling.

Found you can make old spaghetti jars look like vintage mason jars……….

…who would have thought?  Get the details right here.

Then I saw House of Smith pop up in my search, have I mentioned lately I love that blog.  You can see one of her vinyls in the background of one of my pics from today.  She shows you how to make your own vintage box.  While over at her blog I had to stop by her store and I will say I have found another vinyl I will be ordering (keep in my mind I have my own Cricut I just love her stuff).  You wanna see what I found?  Ok.

I must say I might have spent hours looking at Mason Jars, I might even admit I have edited this four times because I continue to find just down right cuteness….and tons of ideas…I mean check all of this “Mason Jar Goodness”.

So with the two tutorials I found I’m thinking you could recreate my treasure for less then $25, please don’t tell Mr. Wonderful.

I’ll be linking this to some other blogs this week.

works for me wednesday at we are that family

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What Does It All Mean?

The last couple of months have been some of the toughest of my life.  I’m not going to go into great detail, but I am going to say people sure can be disappointing.  I’ve tried so hard to give people the benefit of the doubt and love them unconditionally, it’s growing harder day by day.

I’ve learned that I can survive ANYTHING, I am stronger then I ever dreamed and I love my kids with everything I am. 

I may not be “the best mom”, I’ve even wondered recently what I’ve done right.  I still haven’t figured out the answer, but I do know I’ve done the best that I was capable of doing at that very minute.  Do I have regrets?  Is the sky blue?  Would I like a “do over”, you betcha.

I have actually sit in the dark this week reflecting on motherhood and laughed out loud at the irony.  I have four children, three here on earth.  I have been a different mom to each of them for many different reasons and I am pretty sure the one I disappointed and let down the most is at this time the biggest blessing I have.  Will that change, I sure hope so.  Wait I want that to change, yeap I do.  I want to have three children who appreciate me, love me in spite of my screw ups, and check in every now and then.  Right now that just isn’t my reality and I’m not sure how to let go of the hurt, the anger and the disappointment.

I appreciate my first born and am pretty sure I don’t tell her often enough.  I happen to know she is a reader of the old blog and I hope this post put a smile on her face.  Love you beautiful girl!  (We need a new picture ASAP this one was taken prior to a 30 lb. weight loss…another example of a Mother’s Love, this is awful of me and adorable of her….but then I don’t think she has ever taken a bad picture… beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside…..)


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