Life As I Know It

So recently on my blog I had a comment left that I have taken a week or so to process.  Let me be clear I didn’t approve the comment but I did respond to the comment.  Bonnie Jo Hanson my former Sister-In-Law had a lot to say to me so let me go ahead and address her head on.

I could give two shits what Bonnie or anyone she shares DNA with thinks about me.  This is what I know- I was nothing but kind to this family.  I encouraged a relationship with them for my daughter even after the SPERM DONOR walked out of her life.  It wasn’t until an awful accusation was made against my husband surrounding sexual abuse that involved our local police and CPS that I said ENOUGH.  The allegation was total B.S. and my former mother-in-law knew it was B.S.  She felt my husband was inappropriate in the way he touched my daughter’s shoulder while brushing her hair- I have the entire report.  I lay my head down on my pillow and go to sleep with a clear mind EVERY NIGHT.  Bonnie for your reference that you will see me in hell, you already did I was in hell when I was married to your sick brother.

I have emailed Bonnie and asked for her address so I can send her father’s pictures to her, pictures that I mailed to her mother’s address that were sent back to me.  Games, games, games.  I have not had a reply from her.

So Alyssa knows she is loved, she has a father that has raised her since she was 2.  Oh wait Bonnie does this sound familiar?  I believer your brother Stephen D. Conley walked away from another child also.  So Bonnie who is the problem?

Divorce doesn’t have to be ugly but some people insist on making it that way.  I have raised Alyssa for 16 years, my husband has been by my side for 14 of those years and she is an amazing kid.  Bonnie’s brother hasn’t seen her since she was five, he half ass pays child support and doesn’t carry insurance even though he is court ordered.  Regardless she has health insurance because her Dad (my husband) and I make sure she has health insurance, she is in the process of getting her license, she is part of band at her school, she has great grades and a job.  This is a child who suffers with depression- her SPERM DONOR could care less if she can get counseling or her medication but she gets it because her dad and I see to.

So forgiveness is something I have no intention of giving this entire jacked up family because to be quite frank forgiving them or not forgiving them doesn’t cause me any heartache, anxiety, turmoil- honestly these folks are not part of my life.  It’s not like I am carrying around hatred or resentment that is affecting me.  What I have for this bunch of ugly people is pity.  Pity that they have missed out on this AMAZING KID.  Let’s be clear my life was made simpler, when this dog and pony show was no longer part of the story.  However, I was in it for the long haul because it was the right thing to do for Alyssa.  It wasn’t until a child psychologist, an attorney, and even Butler County Children Services said cut the ties did I cut the ties.

Bonnie hope you continue to read my blog.  Life is great.  Can’t wait for you to see the next chapter, I have a few surprises coming.  Stay tuned.

Alyssa 1 Lisas

About Michelle

I started my blog as a way to connect with other paper crafters and of course it has gone a totally different direction. I've been able to share my experience as a mother, my hurt and disappointments over not having a relationship with my maternal unit, my walk with God and how knowing Him has changed me and continues to help me grow into the person I strive to be......
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