“The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.” Maya Angelou
I love Facebook, it keeps me connected to people I care about….old and new friends, family members, co-workers etc. I didn’t think there was anything that could ever change that….boy was I wrong. Last Thursday my Facebook experience came crashing around me. I had recently started seeing a family member show up on other people’s pages and it was irking me, I didn’t want to see her. I didn’t know what to do about it and each time I would see her as a mutual friend it would make me angry, I work hard to avoid being angry. I work hard to accept things for what they are….these feelings were making me think about not participating in Facebook. I then found out that my sister and I had a mutual friend and possibly more coming, my heart hurt. My sister is not part of my life, took lots of counseling to accept that and now poof there she is as a mutual friend on Facebook, I cried. I cried for hours, the hurt, the anger it was all there. I knew then that I couldn’t continue to stay on Facebook I decided I would spend this weekend on Facebook and then I would deactivate my page. I cried some more and then did what I should have been doing all along I started to pray, I didn’t pray about Facebook I prayed about the hurt, I prayed about the unfairness of the situation, I prayed that God wouldn’t allow me start my old ugly behavior and I prayed and I prayed and I prayed.
Yesterday I decided to figure out how to deactivate my Facebook and instead I learned you can “BLOCK” people on Facebook. Get out of here, are you serious? Yeap, I promise….it’s easy. You go to Setting, then Privacy Settings, Block List, type in the name of the person who you don’t want to see on Facebook and then just sit back and cry some more. It’s done! I have my Facebook experience back, I don’t see these two family members on anyone’s Facebook, I don’t even find them if I search for them on Facebook….they don’t exist….I have to say I wish it was that easy to get my sister out of my heart.
This experience reminded me how far I’ve come, how a hurt that I thought would never heal has to some degree. I have accepted that I don’t have the family I should have BUT I have something BETTER. I have unconditional love which I’ve never known, I have drama free family life and I have sisters that although maybe not blood related I love. I shared the blocking on Facebook with them before I shared it with “Blog World”. What are you waiting for get to blocking.
When you feel that strongly about something, you have to do what is right for you.
Hope February is an amazing month for you!
Yup, that “BLOCK” feature comes in handy. 🙂 You can also control who sees what that you post too. 🙂 🙂
I’m so glad you found a way to block them! I totally understand how you feel. My mom & my aunt don’t speak to each other. I was always very close to my aunt, so it is hard. I agreed w/ my mom though & I actually ended up my relationship with her before my mom did. We also went through something very bad w/ my husbands family.
They would pop up on the internet & it just that kick that reminds you of what happened. It sucks, I know! I also feel it to when I’m w/ co-workers or other moms & they talk about family get togethers, etc. We don’t have that much because we are such a small family now.
Anyways, glad you could stay on facebook. Block feature is awesome on websites!
I agree that it is hard to avoid Anger sometimes. Good for you for working on it. I’m glad that you found a way to block certain people.